We are a group of women from all over the world who have experienced pregnancy loss and/or infertility before finally taking home our babies.
We first became friends on Twitter when we were going through our darkest hours of grief. We eventually emerged more resilient with our babes in tow. Parenting after loss and infertility is a new niche we find ourselves in. We may no longer be in the TTC trenches, but we are a breed apart from parents who have never experienced a reproductive trauma.
Colloquially, a ‘rainbow’ is a baby born after miscarriage or stillbirth. We use ‘unicorn’ to denote a baby born after infertility. Some of us have rainbows. Some of us have unicorns. Some of us have rainbow unicorns.
We know that two lines on a pregnancy test don’t mean a baby nine months later. We know that the birth of a baby doesn’t mitigate the grief of losing their siblings. We know that having a baby resolves childlessness, but not infertility.
We’ve lost babies in the first, second, and third trimesters, and during or shortly after birth. We’ve battled endometriosis, recurrent pregnancy loss, unexplained infertility, PCOS, secondary infertility, diminished ovarian reserve, premature ovarian failure, genetic disorders, MRKH, and autoimmune disorders.
Today, we cradle our beloved babies and bumps. We may blend with other parents, but we don’t feel as though we quite fit in.
We are loss and infertility warriors.
These are our stories.