Month: November 2015

My Twins’ First Birthday

This is a piece written for us by a member of the infertility, loss, and adoption community on Twitter. I’ve waited so long for this year to fly by. When becoming a mommy was still just a dream that I thought would never come true, I created secret Pinterest boards for my future kids’ birthdays. […]

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Little Fighters

This is a piece written for us by a member of the infertility, loss, and adoption community. She came home on their due date, three days before they were 11 weeks old. She was barely 6½ lbs and looked like a newborn. She wasn’t even wearing newborn clothes, still swimming in preemie clothes. We fought for this […]

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Being Thankful

thankful (adj.) : conscious of benefit received It’s pretty clear that the ALI community knows what it means to be thankful. In some way or another, we’ve all fought hard for the children we’re parenting today. Our thanks for the means by which they came to us—doctors, medicine, birth parents, donors, surrogates—is instinctual, automatic. We don’t […]

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Miracle Babies, in Every Sense of the Word

This is a piece written for us by a member of the infertility, loss, and adoption community on Twitter. I didn’t even have my hospital bag ready (despite being told to do so ‘just in case’) when I went into labour at 30 weeks, 5 days. I always knew that I wouldn’t make it to full term with […]

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There is Hope

The Kenyan college massacre in April, the Russian plane crash over Egypt at the end of October, and, most recently, dual suicide bombs in Beirut and a series of attacks in Paris have caused understandable concern and anxiety. I have heard many people in the last several days talk about “what the world is coming to” […]

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Aching Hearts

I ran across a story called Where the Children Sleep on a photo project by Magnus Wennman. It is gut-wrenching, tear-inducing, and made my heart heavy. Seeing these photos made me realize just how much privilege we truly have. The first photo is a 5-year-old girl, her pigtails wrapped with ribbon, striped socks peeking out from below her blanket. You […]

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What Do I Pass On?

Making the decision to create a family with the help of an egg donor was straightforward. The hard part was getting used to the idea that I wouldn’t pass on my genes. Part of me was relieved that I wouldn’t pass on certain negative family traits, but it also meant I’d never look at my […]

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What’s in a Name?

First, I would like to say that in being a part of this community, I know how lucky I am that I was able to carry my children. So many mothers do not have that as an option. I appreciate and respect all of those fierce, warrior mommas that create their families, regardless of however […]

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Every Baby is Worth the Wait: A Preterm Labor Story

This is a piece written for us by AJ Clark, a member of the infertility, loss, and adoption community on Twitter. Publisher’s Note: The writer wanted us to add that her daughter was born safely last week at 38 weeks, 4 days. I find it kind of ironic that World Prematurity Awareness Month is in November. […]

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Dodging the Grenades

This is a piece written for us by a member of the infertility, loss, and adoption community on Twitter. I never know when one is going to land on me. It might be a cliché picture of a specific spaghetti sauce, or an ultrasound photo; it might be casually dropped in the context of a […]

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